Okay this is how I see it:
When we meet each other for the first time, what we are bringing with us is our history and or cultural history as well. So think about it, YOU are YOUR history
how you were raised has a lot to do with the way you see things. You may have come from another country and now live somewhere else. YOU bring with you, your cultural history as well as the way your parents raised you, your value system.are ALWAYS, (I can’t empathize that enough!) always filtering everything that comes to us through these filters.

Did you come from a traditional background, or more maybe you were raised to be more of a free spirit?

In this day and age and in the US culture, conservative or liberal are big denominators for some folks.
All this contributes to who you are today, and how you see your world and the world.

I like to call these filters, historical and cultural filters. And we

Your filters help you to define what an experience is, and your filters cause you to experience what you think and feel at any given moment.

So what has this got to do with RELATIONSHIPS?!

Everything of course!! If we were to stop and think about that every time we met someone, just how I may be interpreting our conversation, based on how I am filtering that conversation through my histoy, I might listen a little differently, or at least I would hope I would.

This is huge when it comes to man/woman conversation. Oh don’t get me started…. Actually I find it very interesting and how differently my husband and I see things.

Can you see how that our history might play into how well we communicate? Let alone understand or try to understand the other person.

Hopefully this should give you some food for thought for a moment.

If it sparks some questions, please feel free to drop me a line and tell me what you think about what I’ve shared here.

AND if this is something that you would like to spend some time talking about, how it would be helpful to learn more about how to better your communication, let me know.

Till next time…
Aloha,
Coach Kathleen

Author, Kathleen Reece, (CPBA, CPVA) is known as the “Relationship Coach” by couples around the world. Founder of Relationship Coach for You™ where she helps couples in groups, teleclasses and private sessions. As a professionally certified behavior analyst, she gives couples the communication tools and proven strategies they need to create close and intimate relationships.

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