A few years back my coach (and yes, I, too, have a coach) was asking us to take a look at where we were with with our year end goals.  We were asked to share where we fell short and what we were most proud of in the past year.  She also asked us to rate how we felt we had done. Then she asked us about our next year goals.

To tell you the truth I’d never been much of a goal setting kind of person–up until that conversation.  But that was a life changing moment for me.  Go figure!   I’d talked to people about what they needed to do to get their lives on track and yet I didn’t do the same.

The funny thing about setting goals is that there is a psysiological thing that happens to some of us. Either it can excite you or paralyze  you.

As we began to uncover what other people on the call were up to.  I found that some of those people also had trouble setting goals.

When she pressed us to brainstorm a little bit. I thought, “Well ,I’ll just press her back!” and so I said to her, “What are your goals?”

She laughed at the fact I wasn’t about to let her get away without sharing her goals for that year. BUT she was just as quick to be able to spit them out.—ALL of them.  Wow, I thought, she’s going to write another book and BE on Oprah!

First off, she shared the goals that she had accomplished.  Several of her earlier goals were to do media and TV.  How was that going to happen?  She got involved in the Hawaii Dream Make Over project and became the coach for that project.  Pretty darn good, I’d say.  Hence the media and TV spots.  We had done this event for the past 3 years called the Amazing Women’s Day (highlighting influential community women who have made a difference) which she single handedly started when she had moved to Hawaii. That in itself was quite an accomplishment and it was a tremendous success.

 I actually got excited and inspired as I listened to her and I began to brainstorm on my own.  For one of the first times in my life I really saw possibility and even more importantly believed that I could actually put some of these goals into play and accomplish them.

That’s why I think it’s sometimes so important to do this with a coach or others as a way of staying accountable and also for the encouragement that it can bring. That was the biggest thing just to have the excitement and passion to get beyond whatever historical conversation or belief system I had and realize I could do this and I wanted to put it into action.

Now I would like to offer you some suggestions that I picked up along the way to actually be more concrete in making this happen.

Manifesting Goals:

Focus on what you want in your life in such a way that you start attracting what you want quickly. Sound real woo woo to you? Maybe not!

Some may call it positive thinking.  But it’s way beyond just thinking positively about something.  It’s about taking Action.

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