On an average most  engaged couples only  receive  a couple of premarital coaching or counseling sessions today before they get married. It is my feeling that is just not enough. Why do I say this? Well let’s look at some statistics.

Out of 3000 couples polled in a survey by Marriage Partnership Magazine, when asked “Did your premarital counseling help your marriage?” This is the breakdown from those who answered yes.

One counseling session received                         15 %
Two sessions received                                            31 %
Three sessions received                                         53 %
And Seven or more sessions received                 75 %

This speaks volumes to me, more than ever, about the importance of investing in your marriage with premarital coaching.

Let me give you a little bit of my story. I was raised Catholic and “back in the day” couples usually met with the priest and had one or two sessions with him. Now I know today the Catholic Church has an engagement encounter which I think is great but back in my day that wasn’t an option.  So, my fiance and I go to meet with this Irish priest for our first session and I can tell you that even today his words still resonate with both my husband and myself and we remember them very clearly.  The one thing he said that stuck out for us was always put your mate on a pedestal! Now I have to say at the very young age that we did marry I don’t think I had a clue what that meant nor would I for years.  But I have to say it stuck in our heads.

That being said, what I want to say is no matter how much premarital coaching or counseling you get, if you decide that it has value it will stick with you your whole life.  That is why I think it is so important to invest in your future with at least 6 sessions to get a really good idea and grip on what the future will hold for you and your fiancé.

After all, isn’t this the biggest step you are about to take in your life? And wouldn’t it behoove you to really see what you are getting into? Seriously!

Like I said before in an earlier blog post, “Before you say I do” couples get caught up in the wedding plans and all the excitement, not to mention the expenses and stress of the whole event. They forget to actually spend some time and energy preparing their hearts for the most important decision they will ever make.

That is why I have created and am so passionate about my Seven Week Premarital Coaching workshop.   I am committed to making a lasting contribution and hopefully a huge difference in the lives of the couples I coach.

So Stay Tuned…..

If you have any thoughts on what I’ve hared thus far, leave a post below and give me your feedback.  I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

Author, Kathleen Reece, (CPBA, CPVA) is known as the “Relationship Coach” by couples around the world. Founder of Relationship Coach for You™ where she helps couples in groups, teleclasses and private sessions. As a professionally certified behavior analyst, she gives couples the communication tools and proven strategies they need to create close and intimate relationships. 

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