The story we tell ourselves.  What does that mean? How does the story we tell ourselves affect the way we look at life?                                                                                                

We all have a viewpoint that is based on our lives up to the present time; where we’ve lived, the people we’ve known and history we’ve created over that lifetime.  Each of us has “a story” and each of us sees that story differently.  For most people their “story” is simply memories of times past; good, bad or indifferent, and they don’t think much about it.

But what if we could change the way we look at “our story?”

If we could uncover how these stories affect us, then we could better use them to our advantage. This is how I feel and how I coach my clients using  some of the questions below.  I pose these questions to help them, not so much understand their  story, but to shift their thinking, to looking at the story and the circumstances differently.

 This, therefore, helps them to understand the power their story has on their lives.

Think about how powerfully your story has a hold of you and affects the way you view your life.  What if by asking yourself some of these questions, you were able to gain some altitude in how you view life?!

 *How is your story working for you these days?

*Is it stopping you from a greater experience in life?

*What about the contribution that is who you are?  What does that mean….. Think about it…..Who we are is actually a contribution to everyone we know and the world around us.

*Is it possible that the way you are, may be having an impact and contribution on those around you and you not even know it? (Later I will go into how I view the word contribution and how we can see the power of that word.)

*Would it be valuable to know what and how your story is impacting your life and others? 

*Would you like to know how it affects your relationships, your friendships, your work and career….

Stay tuned…..

 AND I would like some feedback in how this subject is landing for you.

Much Aloha,

Coach Kathleen

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Here’s another reason for having a Mission Statement,  If you are aimlessly floating along then you are never really clear about what it is that you want to be doing monthly, yearly and so on.  It’s important to know who you are and who you want to be.  Having a mission statement helps you to be in alignment with your goals.  Another way to look at this would be to ask yourself, “What do I want to contribute to this world?”  “How do I want to “show up” in such a way that just by being here I’ve made a difference?”  I’ll let you in on a little secret about how I see life for me…

It’s very exciting for me to ask myself what kind of contribution I want to make in the lives of other people (the ones that are closest to me first, my family my grandkids, my dearest friend), and then those that I am in contact with in my daily life (my clients, the people I run into, Mr. or Ms. Man/Woman on the street, etc.)?  This is what truly gets me excited about life.

So let me ask you, what is your life purpose?  Why are you alive?  What gets you truly excited? What is your story, your legacy, the things you want to be remembered for?

Maybe you’re not happy with what you are doing right now and want to change things. Maybe you should change the way you look at life. Many people do things over their lives based on choices they make — and some they didn’t — such as job loss, the economy or maybe even some tragedy that they turned into a whole new way of living only because they learned to become creative and think outside the box.  And maybe that, in turn, turned out to become an even bigger blessing and difference for someone else, as a result.  And on and on it goes.

So tell me, what are you doing now and who do you want to be?  Dream BIG!  Yes, have dreams!  Ask yourself what is it you really want.  What is your honest-to-God heart’s desire?

When you think you know, then write it down.  This is called a Purpose Statement.  It might feel silly, but just do it.   You would be surprised how many people in life never ever give this a thought.  They just live life day to day.  They, too, have purpose and vision and are here to make a difference but just lack the know-how to create a purpose statement.  It’s not just for business, you know.  It’s for whatever it is that you are passionate about.  I encourage you today to just sit down and begin.  Don’t be afraid!  Write out your wildest dream if that is where you what to go with this!

You know, years ago that is exactly how we as a family fulflled our dream of living in Hawaii.  Actually, it was my husband’s desire and dream. But all I had to do was say I would think about it and it was off to the races and here we are 30yrs later, with people telling me all the time; “Oh, you’re so lucky you live in Hawaii!”  It really isn’t that hard to do something like this if you really want to!   Isn’t that what life is all about?

Tell me if you could do anything in your life and money or time was not an issue what would it be?

What is that one thing, that one passion maybe you’ve never dared wish or speak it out?

This is the time to do it.  What are you waiting for?  The sky is truly the limit.  Writing down your goals is a very good exercise to see what is in there to begin with, so why not take some time over these next few days and weeks to do it.  JUST DO IT!

Like Nike says….

Can’t wait to hear what you come up with. Stay tuned for more.  And have a Happy, Safe and Blessed New Year!!

Aloha,

Kathleen

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Now let’s move on to another area that may not be off your radar as of yet or maybe you have done this before but haven’t visited it lately.  What I am talking about is your “Mission Statement”

Here’s some food for thought; Mission Statements are like painting a picture or choosing a target of where you want to go or where you want to be in the future.

Simply put, mission statements are like a yardstick to measure your daily activities. They are basically how you want to be personally and how you want to be perceived by others.  You realize what your ultimate goal is for you and you alone. And in my mind it really isn’t about money.  Most of the time we think that it is, but it really is much more than that.   A mission statement is a word picture that defines you and your goals at this point in time.

A  Mission Statement helps you to stay focused and prioritize what you want to accomplish and the good news (or even better) the great news is that it is always evolving. Yes, for the perfectionist’s among us who have a hard time even thinking about writing a Mission Statement, what a revelation that can be that nothing is set in stone. We are all evolving, moving, changing and growing so why wouldn’t our Mission Statement do the same?

The most important question would be “Is the Mission Statement that I have right now working?”  ”Does it need to be tweaked and changed from the last time I looked at it?”   “Where am I now in my business, my family life, my own life, spiritually; what is it that I want right now?”  It’s really about continuing to make it grow and change with you.  Really!  There is a sense of freedom that can be there if you allow it.

Think about it!

Much Aloha,

Coach Kathleen

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